Your apology is very noble, even though as you have explained things were very different from your point of view. Unfortunately many complaints are due to misunderstandings. Players attitudes seem to have improved greatly over the last year or so but there are still people who get all bent out of shape when they can't see the whole picture.
Also keep in mind that some players consider trash talk part of strategy and have said so here on the forum. Some have accused good players of lagging just to get them out of the game. If you just leave at the first mention of lagging you may be enabling a troll. Of course as you play and become familiar with other players you will come to know there are many who you can count on to be truthful while others... not so much.
Some of the recent miscommunications I've been part of lately:
- I was flying at an altitude of about 800 while two blues were going head on against a pack of reds. I dropped in and shot down two reds from above and was immediately accused of being invisible.
- I was in a btc game with a blue noob who decided the best way to defend was from shore in a tank. I shot down 3 reds who went into tanks (in range of my carrier). I bombed 2 tanks and shot the other. By the time I got the last tank the next red was in sight, so I engaged him while I was flying bombless. By the time I shot him down I was more than 1/2 way to the red carrier and the other reds were just coming into view. I quit shooting at them and flew low toward good tanking territory. One of the reds said "Dropper!" and left the game.
Lol. I'm not here to protect the sensitivities of someone who's skin is too thin to handle the game, I'm here to have some fun in the limited time I have to goof-off playing a video game.
Also, many established players don't understand or allow that players who aren't or can't subscribe don't want to leave a game or try to switch sides because they can't choose sides and they have to wait 6:min before they can log back in. I've paid for a subscription all year but my Kindle Fire only recognized my subscription with the last update. If I'd left every unbalanced game or every time someone said I was lagging I would not have been able to play more than 1-2 games in an hour.
Enjoy the game. Don't get too worried about what others say when you know you're justified. And... honest apologies are always a good gesture.